If you look back as a single mother over the past few months,
what would you like to change?
When you have new plans,xwhich plans will you carry out as a single mother?
If you were a single mother in the past year then you can realize
how much has changed your life.
Perhaps you were once a person with lot of spontaneous actions,
weekly get-to-gethers with several friends after your the fitness or your work.
Maybe you made a lot of nice holidays you traveled around
the world and had lived well too.
when you area single mother.
Of course, you have given that beautiful life andxyou have all
the love and everything over for your child
nothing against the love you feels for your child.
we all want nothing more than to make our kids happy and
we’d put ourselves aside.
It is not that life now is completely stopped,
but do you notice how different your life is when you are a single mother?
It runs ‘just’ not to you but to your child.
You’re not the first concerned with what makes you happy,
but what makes your baby happy.
Besides that, it is also tough for the mother 24/7
to take things
because there is always a range of actions to proceed.
Just thinking on just arrange a babysitter.
Anyway, you realize that you do not make the most out of your life
and although you understand that you can no longer
live like when you were childless,
you better decide to have more “personal time” this coming months.
To do nice things for yourself and
therefore (still) feeling happier.
Because occasionally it feels stuffy as you think,
you are staring every night at the same television.
Could it be otherwise if you would decide another game-plan?
And because of you, I give you here some tips to get more out of your life,
as a single mother.
(This is at least what you can do,
I hope you can get there from our inspiration).
Every month an evening out.
Or maybe go wild on stage or
just eating out
with a girlfriend or taking a drink.
It’s good to be out just to unwind.
Of course, that costs money and find a nanny can
be seen as a continual objection.
But if we continue to think of objections and not potential,
then we always sit on that bench.
It is, therefore, better to put aside every week 5 euros
(This is not 1 euro a day!)
so you can go out every month.
You can buy a pot where you put this money in and
there you stick on that pot: “Personal Time.”
I hope that you give yourself such a personal time
because of this is awards time!
Four times a year a weekend for yourself
It is lovely to sit on stage,
but it’s also nice to have an evening nothing to do.
Not having to carry the fight to put your baby in bed or
continue to have the idea that you should now go to bed
because your “natural alarm” goes off the next day.
These questions are one of the hardest things there are,
but you can do that.
You can ask your parents and your brother if your child
may stay there twice a year for a weekend.
Super fun for them.
The world of your baby becomes bigger and
your world too.
(Plus you can finally have a little nap)
or you just love to get together on weekends
with someone? Is there some fun to do?
Organize a few times a year a sleepover!
If your friends now have children or not,
if you’re out there, you have at least something
going on in your own home.
A sleepover with a single girlfriend and
her baby can also be super cozy!
The children can play together
while you can chat with her.
You really can plan that a few times a year.
Every week sports
You can plan to run a marathon
(Even if you haven’t in the last 10 years done nothing to sport)!
Because you have a child, you have the excuse that you can not do sports
because you are 24/7 a mother.
Deep in your heart you know that this is an excuse,
because even when you were not a mother yet,
did you, do sports?
I keep saying: “think of possibilities, not limitations’!
Suppose you buy a runners watch so that you can
start training on heart rate.
And you’re running three times a week!
How? You will train twice a week,
after you have brought your child to daycare.
Yes, you must also just do your work,
so you will have to muster discipline (still) rather stand up
so you can preserve it all.
But it certainly can!
You have to find a solution for one day a week,
but you can arrange it with your neighbor that you will help each other.
So she can give her children once a week to you, for the transfer and
you can hopefully give your baby once a week, spend an hour with her.
Exercise is very healthy, and it gives you energy!
Ladies, put yourself a target so you can also have another
item to be very proud of yourself!
Be there for each other
sleep in your girlfriend house with her children,
and one Saturday every two months, her children sleep in your home.
If the kids of your girlfriend see their father on fixed days,
that would nevertheless also be even nice to be a Saturday off.’
(These tips are not just for mothers where the fathers are not in the game.)
So you can both once in two months have a Saturday for yourselves!
Can you See Friends more?
You have girlfriends living around the corner
who you haven’t seen for just two or three months.
And that’s not because you do not want to see each other,
but because you have it all supposedly ‘busy.’
Time surely flies well, so it’s just a matter of planning.
And even if you do not have the intention to
not see each other a long time,
before you know it is again two months later.
You will, therefore, arrange regular evenings with friends.
And that doesn’t need to be every week.
And it’s certainly not a problem if you cancels once.
But if there is an agreement,
then it is likely that it will happen instead of just thinking, ‘it will come. “
You go out with three friends every week on a fixed evening.
Then you have at least almost every week an evening visit and
it stops to be boring to look at the TV again and again.
Do you have friends with children,
aren’t they be able to come to you?
Pick up a nice glass of wine to Skype together!
That’s just more fun than calling and
so you still have a little bit of the feeling that you’re together.
Perhaps this is an open door,
but we do not be aware.
Are you a night out with a cozy friend to visit,
stand there just a moment in silence to be aware of the situation.
Realize that you enjoy and enjoy the moment.
We are often so busy in our head,
that we forget to reflect on the good times and
therefore still be left with a feeling of stress and
Considering these moments,
means you experience more happiness and
you will also be literally happier!
The keywords are actually PLANS Solutions and ENJOY!
Because if you do not plan, then you look next month maybe
back again to a couple of month’s in which
you didn’t get most out of your life
because you couldn’t find out what is possible.
And if you do not ask, then your parents, your brother,
your girlfriend or whoever might be there,
will never give you a solution.
(Or less than you would like).
And if you do not enjoy, then you can not do it as well,
because then you do not feel happiness.
You can manage it to find a solution, to ask for help and enjoy?
Then you get this as a minimum in return for all your efforts:
- 1x in the month an evening out
- 4x per year weekend for yourself
- A slim, healthy and energetic body
- Almost every week, a visit from a friend
- A few times a year a sleepover
- 1x in two months Saturday for yourself
- Awareness and happiness
There are probably many of you who say
“I do not need this; I just want to be with my child.”
Would you like to hear from your mother
that she has put her life on an end
to care for you?
Or would you prefer to hear your mother
has done fun stuff in her life besides much super care of you
and loving you?
You also increase the world of your child because
she/he sees other people and she/he can stay
with them sometimes off to stay.
She actually gives you something;
the moments when you think to yourself and
can grow and develop personally.
I, therefore, hope that you have many benefits of these tips,
so besides that you’re a super mother,
you do also nice things for yourself.
Because you deserve it!
Just because you’re a single mother!
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“Daddy on a mission.”
Author: Johan Persyn Hooglede Belgium
Categories : personal time as a single mother, personal development as a single mother, parenting as
a single mother, me time for single mothers,
how much me time for single mother,advice for single moms
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